An Update and Sheppy Pie

Thought I would update this!

It's been awhile since I have been here and I figured I should give everyone something better to read about then my rants and the last couple of unpleasant posts!

So an update on what has been happening...I am going to copy Johnny and do a dotpoint/numbered list. LOL

1. Work - Had a very stressful week! I had to drive to Truganina at like 6am in the morning. Now for all of you that know me I am so not confident on the road and almost had a heart attack the first time I drove there. To give you a clearer indication of where it is ...Laverton North. It's about one and a half hours from my place and you gotta go onto the West Gate and all that crap. It is so dead and industrial out there...I think the only form of civilisation I saw out there were some cows and sheeps. And no, before you go and assume I was out there being a bogan, work sent me there for a new program launch done at the Truganina High School ( which was so deserted and pove!) . But I am much more relaxed now that is all behind me. Exciting News is that I could be going to QLD for a few days ( for work again) in a few weeks time! :)

2. Boyfriend - We celebrated our 3 years a few weeks ago. Unfortunately there isn't any wedding bells yet ( actually probably not for awhile!! LOL). I gave him a boomerang which I painted ( yes Grace's lack of art skills but anyways...) with a "lovey dovey" message! We were planning on going up to Geelong for a romantic picnic and maybe even go up to Rye to the hot springs, but we ended up sleeping in until like 4 in the afternoon ( on ANZAC day) and were like"ehhh fuck it" and ended up snuggling in bed the rest of the day..yes we have turned extremely lazy! We've had a few hiccups here and there but things have been peachy and I still love him heaps!!!!!! :)

3. Friends - Well we won't get into my last few posts, but I have done a bit of self reflection on the whole situation and I do admit now that I probably over-reacted a bit. I am not saying that I regret doing anything or saying anything...in fact I still stand by my views but I wish the friendship could have ended differently in a more civillised manner, yet at the same time I do have a very hot and fiery temper.

On a different note, Gilly came down to Melb this weekend...I was so happy to see her!!!!! I think she's become a bit more mature and has grown up so much and looks hot!! We were so excited to see her.

I am looking at organising a karaoke/drink up at my place soon..let me know if you are interested and this time I actually do have a karaoke DVD ( remember the last time - we drove all around knox looking to hire a PS2 to play singstar HAHAHA!)

4. Other Stuff - Apart from work and going out with mates/the boy I haven't really been up to much! Will be up at Julie's this weekend doing wedding stuff..so that will be good. I am starting to really like that side of town a bit more ( west-side) perhaps its cos I have always grown up/been around the eastern suburbs but I just think its so much more relaxed and so close to the city! I feel like Im almost in a diff. state when Im there..( sound weird?).

I am also on the hunt for a part time job as my IBL is finishing really soon...I do have a few options open but am not sure at the moment. If anyone hears of any job openings let me know!

Oh..and I may be getting a car soon! ( I know I have been banging on about this for ages now..but yes...it may be happening sooner than later!!!)( - will keep u posted! :)

Now Im off to do my chores ( yes gotta get in the parentals good books so that the car thing can become more of a reality!) and Im going to attempt to make a shepards pie!! *to carol - SHEPPY PIEEE!!!* :)

And ill leave u with some pics!!

Me and Janice at Martini and Manicure Night ( we had makeovers and the lady went a bit psycho with the blush!!LOL)

Tiara, Me & Giusti at M&M night - yes my stupid camera makes us all look ghost but the girls still look hot!

Carol, Janice and Me at Prince of Wales waiting to see Tv Rock!

Me cam-whoring!

Toddles xx

My Reply

Firstly I have “kept this under my brow” because I didn’t want to believe that what you were saying was aimed at me as I believed that you had more respect for me as a person than that. However, the more I came to think about it the more angrier I got and believed that you were infact insulting me with your comment.

Secondly your comment about that particular person was that she was narrowminded because of her refugee background and poor socioeconomic state. THOSE WERE YOUR EXACT WORDS. It doesn’t matter that I didn’t like her or whatever, even though you are insulting her you are also insulting me because I am in the same “state” as her. My parents are refugees ( I told you about their entire trip to Australia before you made the comment. Did that just slip your mind did it?). So how could you go and make such a ridiculous comment?

I don’t think I have blown this out of proportion. My parents and their background mean a lot to me. Their sacrifice of leaving their country to come here for the wellbeing of my and my sister is something that I won’t have people look down upon, especially in such a manner where it makes us out to be bad “narrow minded” people. Therefore, I feel I needed to stand up to you and tell EVERYONE that there are people like this out there.

By the way are you forgetting that Christine’s parents are also refugees? Oh but I guess that is okay with you isn’t it? I am not going to speak on behalf of her but I personally think she wouldn’t want to associate with you knowing that you think so low of people like us with a “poor socioeconomic” background.

I do agree with you that this is the end of the friendship and there definitely is an inequality in our friendship spectrum…you thinking that you are more superior to me and my friends,ex friends whoever… To me, that is not a true friend. When you are really friends with someone…their background, money situation, status doesn’t matter it’s the person that matters. I thought you of all people would understand that.

I thought everything was actually going well between us before your unappreciation for my gift and this bullshit started. So don’t pretend that this isn’t about the present or whatever. Don’t try and put some bullcrap about our “gap in thinking”……..

If you do really know me as much as you claim to, you would know that one thing I hate the most in life is when people start thinking they are better than others just because of their money, status in society, education levels and all those other materialistic things.
It is unfortunate that we can not be friends. But you know what? I am glad that you did call me that night, you shouldn’t have regretted it because it really proved to me what type of person you are and how wrong I was about you.

Fuck You Very Much - I don't need that bullshit in my life.

I hate people who are judgemental though I am a hypocrite in saying that cos I probably judge people very quickly based on looks and hearsay from other people. But you know what? This is my blog so I can say what I want and right now there is something that occured a few weeks ago ....a comment that was made that until now I haven't really thought about which has now made me fire up.

So yes Grace's rant for the day....

When I was little I probably had a pretty sheltered childhood. I think sometimes that is why I don't know many things or why I act a bit childish now because all through my childhood my parents held a high regard for me getting the best education ( being the eldest also didn't help) and to them they didn't believe in kids "going out". Put it this way...I wasn't allowed to go out to Knox by myself until at least halfway through year 9 ( yet it is a miracle that my sister could go to the city from Year 8 ...damn younger kiddy winks!!! grrrr...) and wasn't allowed to go to discos in primary school etc.

Before I hit Kindergarten I knew how to write my name and could start putting basic words together, this was all due to my mum going to actual academic bookshops ( where teachers get their textbooks) and getting me workbooks imported from Malaysia/America where the standard of education is a bit higher. So yes in Grade 2 whilst many kids were out playing or at calisthenics I was "forced" to do workbooks!!! I guess my parent's tightness continued until around Year 10. So suprisingly when most other asian parents get all anal around Year 11 & 12 my mum was a lot more relaxed then and realised that her nagging me wasn't going to make me study harder. However I knew they still gave a damn about it all by the amount of money they invested into me in those 2 years....private tuition, extra books, revision lectures, revision session, summer/holiday classes, textbooks etc.

I guess until now when I am a bit older I haven't really ever appreciated all the time and care that my parents took in making sure that I was on the right path academically and as a person.

Before you start thinking...OMG GRACE HAS TURNED INTO A GOODY GOODY DORK. The reason why I am telling you this is that a comment made to me that "narrowminded people are those with refugee parents and come from a poor socioeconomical background" has made me write this. I am sure the person...perhaps didn't think what they were saying but to me this is such a huge insult to me, to those whose parents are like mine..who came here to give their kids a better life instead of being caught up in communist propoganda bullshit and to those that are actually refugees themselves.

How does me having refugee parents define me as a narrowminded person? You think because my parents didn't get a "higher education" that they are not good people and don't know how to think and raise kids?

If anything I believe that they are probably stronger people, having seen and lived through times of war, starvation where they didn't know if they would live to see another day. I am sure those people with "better socioeconomical background" would have never experienced a time where they went 8 days without any food, stuck on a boat fighting for their lives.

Who are you to generalise such bullshit like that? You think because your parents have a better educational background that they have raised kids better than refugee parents?

My parents fucking have worked their asses off so that we are not in a POOR SOCIOECONOMIC state. When my parents first came here from Vietnam...my dad worked 5 jobs getting about 3-4 hours of sleep a night just so he could earn enough to maintain his old car and start saving for a homeloan. My mum had to deal with working with all types of toxic chemicals and shit in a detergent factory.

Oh but thats right...your parents swanned in didn't they? cos they are better educated and hence lead better lives.

So for you to sit there on your fucking high horse and tell me that they didn't raise us right, that we are from a poor socioeconomic background makes me so angry.

Money and Education is NOT everything in life. Sure its nice to have plenty of it but it doesn't ever FUCKING define who we are as people. It is our experiences as people, morals and values that our parents have taught us that make up who we are.

So you can go and fuck yourself because I don't need that type of bullshit "friend" in life who looks down at me and my family, who disrespects my background, who thinks they are superior to all us "kids raised by refugees from poor socioeconomic background".

Yes perhaps I am being a complete bitch right now and am blowing this out of proportion but right now I feel that I need to speak out about this and rant so that people know that there are such fuckheads out there that really think like this.

The demise of a friendship

From Dictionary.Com
2.termination of existence or operation: the demise of the empire.

So I have finally experienced my first "breakup" of a friendship. It was made official last Friday and I can't say I am terribly sad nor am I glad.

I admit that I saw this coming for awhile, just neither of us really made the first move to end it. It was almost like a tasteless cake ( yes always need to bring in the food terms). It looks gorgeous but it has no taste but you don't want to throw it out because it looks so nice still...

The more I think about it the more I wish I should have done it sooner. I almost feel like she has "won" by being the first to snob me off, though I shouldn't think of our friendship so competitively should I? Is it my pride perhaps?

It is sad in a way too that after so many years of friendship ( genuine or not is another matter) that it has come to this. I was recently asked " Why does she hate you so much?". I didn't think she did hate me as HATE is such a strong word that one needs to really think about what it truly means before just tossing it into casual conversation.

I think what makes me so angry now is that she is involving other people into this whole thing which should only be between me and her. But then on the other hand should it be her I should be mad at or those that have believed her words and who have left their loyalty to me as a friend behind for her lies?

It does explain a lot of weird behaviour I have noticed from certain people, but when I heard that she had been telling MY friends about it and trying to get people to "side" with her it makes my blood boil.

It's one thing to be angry at me or whatever but DONT TRY AND TURN MY FRIENDS AGAINST ME - especially when you are doing so by telling complete fabrications.

And to those people who say " I want to be mutual and not get involved" and then go and rant about me and say that " X" is right and "Grace doesn't know what she is talking about X would never do that" don't fucken pretend that you are genuine and trying to stay out of it when you have gone and practically declared whose side you are on by slagging me out to everyone. I don't even know how I feel about your betrayal at this point.

It seems that I am not having much luck at the moment with friends....just recently another incident occured in our "friendship group" that upset us all.

I guess as we get older we become to appreciate who our true friends are and that it is quality not quantity that matters.

Birthday Party Pics...FINALLY!

1. Me Janice & Chrissy - Pre party Dinner @ Nandos (MC) - Okay we are cheap but it was good! :)

2. Shellz & Me with Chris lookin all funny at the back!! ( he doesn't normally look like that! :P)

3. Shellz using me as a Bar Table - yes we were gettin a bit happy then! :)



4. Me at home before being a cam-whore ( btw - thanks Janice for doin me frock up!! LOL)

5. Me and Christina - Its the first picture of us!!!! Thanks for coming and hope u had fun! :)

6. Jen, Me & Carol - "Begger Tuts" LOL




7. Me with the "golden couple" - Tash & Tim!

8. Christine, Me & Bel - all looked gorgeous that night! :P

9. Me cutting my "long anticipated" birthday cake (s) !!!! - on another note shame on MC's Coles for not having the Freddo Icecream cake I wanted ( u guys suck! - yes im so mature!)




10. Me & Hunni ( Yes - he has no hair now? Opinions?!) - Should have seen us later that night....LOL

11. Me & Chrissy - *Melons!* = The top bowler of the night! :)

12. At Hush Bar - Tony, Becky, Me, Carol, Jen, Weng & Tashy



13. Lisa & Me being drunk and random - didn't notice that the floor was that gross!!! eww! but nice dress lees!

14. Me with Sanel, Oggi & Sanel 2 ( Yes my boyf's best friend has the same name as him!!! )

15. Just to round off things...LOL - My fob birthday cake at our family birthday gathering! :) ( U can sooo tell it was done by asian - LOOK AT THE PICS!!! hahaha)


There were heaps more ...some I looked gross in, some people looked kinda deadwhite and some - let's not go there!!! LOL . If u wanna see other ones - ASK ME!


As you can tell - after having my computer re-formatted I can finally load pictures up! However, apologies to the whiteness and carppy quality of the pictures ( bloody f*king pentax!!!) - I do have it on my agenda to get a better camera soon!

Anyways, all this uploading has made me tired so Im off to sleep...

Next Time I promise I will make up for it :)

My absence from the net & My Bday Party

No I haven;t been anti - net social! Turns out my computer had a virus ( yes it musta been all that porn! LOL). Hopefully we are able to pick it up tonight and it will be all ok!

Anyways, I guess you all came on here to hear about my much anticipated and talked about event of the year " My 20th Birthday Party"! Unfortunately due to my lack of net and also me blogging at work I can't post pics up yet..but I'm making a pinky promise to all my bloggers that Pics will be up very soon ( the respectable ones at least..!!)

I guess the easiest way to put my birthday in a nutshell ( as I am suppose to be at a meeting in about 10 mins is in DOT POINTS!!!) so here it goes:

* Bowling was heaps of fun..even though I was all stressed for most of the time and I sucked, everyone mingled as expected and the lanes were pretty cool. I am still not impressed by those few unnamed people who showed up late * shakes fist*. PUNCTUALITY PEOPLE!!! :)

* Thanks to Janice and Giusti for organising my cake - yes I am a baby and I wanted to blow out candles so nerrrh!

* Thanks everyone for presents..loved them! I got a lot of cooking stuff..hmmmm is that a good thing...or does everyone think i love eating? HAHAHA. I have heapsa cake/cupcake/cookie books! and I also got a very groovy sushi kit ( tho not sure how to make it....need to go to the librarY!!!) - ahaha i am such a nerd at heart!

* Spent wayyyy too much money at the Hush Bar. The owners were a bit too "fully sick" for me and the drinks were kinda expensive!! The place also was dead at 1 am ( WTF!!)

* Got blind drunk, felt like chucking on the way home in the taxi, kept goin on about "begger tets" ( janice/carol/taxi ppl all know wat im talking about!!), and passed out in sanel's car!!

* All in all..I think it was a success, there were a few things that happened on the night that I wasn't too impressed about but I had an awesome time!! Get Ready for my 21st PEOPLE!!! *woot woot*

**** To Ami & Gilly - I really wish u guys could have come but I knwo your thoughts were with me and thanks for the cards/wishes...really meant a lot to me! I better see you girls next year!! ****

and yes...pictures will be coming! Now off to my meeting!

A Tribute to Yummy Mummys

Omg - I opened my blogger and its gone all drab and dreary! What they hell happened?! I guess this is kinda good..makes it less inconspicious if I am blogging at work..not like I ever do!! *tsk tsk*

Well a quick update on the world of grace ( even though it hasn't been ages since I last blogged): I am currently trying to organise my birthday party...its turning into a huge soiree * so much for a "small" shing-ding"*. I have to get final numbers by Monday and some people are "ummm and ahhhing" and pissing me off. I mean hello...how can you not know what you are doing next weekend. GRRR or maybe people don't plan things as much as I do. Anyways, I still haven't made up my mind about the cake matter yet. I am very tempted to get one of those Streets ice cream cakes. Hmmm....

Now for my "ponder" of the day.... 'young' mothers.

I know this is a pretty sensitive topic but after one of my blog surfings and reading about a young mother's rant about how she has had to sacrifice certain things as she is a young mother I want to write that..in a way I really admire those young mothers as I think to take on such a huge challenge up..of raising a child at such a young age is really admirable.

I know some people might say..well hang on theyre stupid for having a child so young. Well No. I don't think so. I'm assuming a lot of young mothers probably did not intend on having a child at such a young age, but hey shit happens and when things turn into a certain path one day you suddenly have to look up and take responsibility for what has happened and realise that you have a choice to raise a child, to nurture a life. I think that is a huge decision and responsibility and really admire those who choose that and still can juggle a job, friends and family.

Some of us sit here and whinge about our social lives being too hectic with Uni/Work and worry about little things like "birthday cake", whereas these women have to deal with the complexities on how to raise a young life, often with society frowning upon them and most of the time without the support of a stable family or partner.

There is this single young mum at my work who works part time, gets up at 5 am so she can get her daughter to childcare on time and drive into work. She also works on the weekends as a cleaner and check out chick whilst also making sure she can spend at least half a day with her daughter. Often she comes in with her hair all unruly and clothes unironed. A lot of people laugh and bitch about her behind her back, a lot of the older people also "tut" at her apperance. But she amazes me as she just takes it all and is so nice to everyone. Always asks about your day, and always to help you out. Which is more than what I can say for a few of the other people here...but that's a whole other rant.

So pretty much I just want to say..."Keep it up" to all the young mothers out there who sometimes feel like they have hit rock bottom or finding it hard, because you are doing an amazing job. A job that some people in their 30s and 40s are not even doing well at. And to the rest of society I guess next time you see a young mother down the street, please don't jump to stereotypical conclusions because that girl has been through enough in her life and is probably one of the strongest kind of women around.