My Reply

Firstly I have “kept this under my brow” because I didn’t want to believe that what you were saying was aimed at me as I believed that you had more respect for me as a person than that. However, the more I came to think about it the more angrier I got and believed that you were infact insulting me with your comment.

Secondly your comment about that particular person was that she was narrowminded because of her refugee background and poor socioeconomic state. THOSE WERE YOUR EXACT WORDS. It doesn’t matter that I didn’t like her or whatever, even though you are insulting her you are also insulting me because I am in the same “state” as her. My parents are refugees ( I told you about their entire trip to Australia before you made the comment. Did that just slip your mind did it?). So how could you go and make such a ridiculous comment?

I don’t think I have blown this out of proportion. My parents and their background mean a lot to me. Their sacrifice of leaving their country to come here for the wellbeing of my and my sister is something that I won’t have people look down upon, especially in such a manner where it makes us out to be bad “narrow minded” people. Therefore, I feel I needed to stand up to you and tell EVERYONE that there are people like this out there.

By the way are you forgetting that Christine’s parents are also refugees? Oh but I guess that is okay with you isn’t it? I am not going to speak on behalf of her but I personally think she wouldn’t want to associate with you knowing that you think so low of people like us with a “poor socioeconomic” background.

I do agree with you that this is the end of the friendship and there definitely is an inequality in our friendship spectrum…you thinking that you are more superior to me and my friends,ex friends whoever… To me, that is not a true friend. When you are really friends with someone…their background, money situation, status doesn’t matter it’s the person that matters. I thought you of all people would understand that.

I thought everything was actually going well between us before your unappreciation for my gift and this bullshit started. So don’t pretend that this isn’t about the present or whatever. Don’t try and put some bullcrap about our “gap in thinking”……..

If you do really know me as much as you claim to, you would know that one thing I hate the most in life is when people start thinking they are better than others just because of their money, status in society, education levels and all those other materialistic things.
It is unfortunate that we can not be friends. But you know what? I am glad that you did call me that night, you shouldn’t have regretted it because it really proved to me what type of person you are and how wrong I was about you.

Fuck You Very Much - I don't need that bullshit in my life.

I hate people who are judgemental though I am a hypocrite in saying that cos I probably judge people very quickly based on looks and hearsay from other people. But you know what? This is my blog so I can say what I want and right now there is something that occured a few weeks ago ....a comment that was made that until now I haven't really thought about which has now made me fire up.

So yes Grace's rant for the day....

When I was little I probably had a pretty sheltered childhood. I think sometimes that is why I don't know many things or why I act a bit childish now because all through my childhood my parents held a high regard for me getting the best education ( being the eldest also didn't help) and to them they didn't believe in kids "going out". Put it this way...I wasn't allowed to go out to Knox by myself until at least halfway through year 9 ( yet it is a miracle that my sister could go to the city from Year 8 ...damn younger kiddy winks!!! grrrr...) and wasn't allowed to go to discos in primary school etc.

Before I hit Kindergarten I knew how to write my name and could start putting basic words together, this was all due to my mum going to actual academic bookshops ( where teachers get their textbooks) and getting me workbooks imported from Malaysia/America where the standard of education is a bit higher. So yes in Grade 2 whilst many kids were out playing or at calisthenics I was "forced" to do workbooks!!! I guess my parent's tightness continued until around Year 10. So suprisingly when most other asian parents get all anal around Year 11 & 12 my mum was a lot more relaxed then and realised that her nagging me wasn't going to make me study harder. However I knew they still gave a damn about it all by the amount of money they invested into me in those 2 years....private tuition, extra books, revision lectures, revision session, summer/holiday classes, textbooks etc.

I guess until now when I am a bit older I haven't really ever appreciated all the time and care that my parents took in making sure that I was on the right path academically and as a person.

Before you start thinking...OMG GRACE HAS TURNED INTO A GOODY GOODY DORK. The reason why I am telling you this is that a comment made to me that "narrowminded people are those with refugee parents and come from a poor socioeconomical background" has made me write this. I am sure the person...perhaps didn't think what they were saying but to me this is such a huge insult to me, to those whose parents are like mine..who came here to give their kids a better life instead of being caught up in communist propoganda bullshit and to those that are actually refugees themselves.

How does me having refugee parents define me as a narrowminded person? You think because my parents didn't get a "higher education" that they are not good people and don't know how to think and raise kids?

If anything I believe that they are probably stronger people, having seen and lived through times of war, starvation where they didn't know if they would live to see another day. I am sure those people with "better socioeconomical background" would have never experienced a time where they went 8 days without any food, stuck on a boat fighting for their lives.

Who are you to generalise such bullshit like that? You think because your parents have a better educational background that they have raised kids better than refugee parents?

My parents fucking have worked their asses off so that we are not in a POOR SOCIOECONOMIC state. When my parents first came here from Vietnam...my dad worked 5 jobs getting about 3-4 hours of sleep a night just so he could earn enough to maintain his old car and start saving for a homeloan. My mum had to deal with working with all types of toxic chemicals and shit in a detergent factory.

Oh but thats right...your parents swanned in didn't they? cos they are better educated and hence lead better lives.

So for you to sit there on your fucking high horse and tell me that they didn't raise us right, that we are from a poor socioeconomic background makes me so angry.

Money and Education is NOT everything in life. Sure its nice to have plenty of it but it doesn't ever FUCKING define who we are as people. It is our experiences as people, morals and values that our parents have taught us that make up who we are.

So you can go and fuck yourself because I don't need that type of bullshit "friend" in life who looks down at me and my family, who disrespects my background, who thinks they are superior to all us "kids raised by refugees from poor socioeconomic background".

Yes perhaps I am being a complete bitch right now and am blowing this out of proportion but right now I feel that I need to speak out about this and rant so that people know that there are such fuckheads out there that really think like this.

The demise of a friendship

From Dictionary.Com
2.termination of existence or operation: the demise of the empire.

So I have finally experienced my first "breakup" of a friendship. It was made official last Friday and I can't say I am terribly sad nor am I glad.

I admit that I saw this coming for awhile, just neither of us really made the first move to end it. It was almost like a tasteless cake ( yes always need to bring in the food terms). It looks gorgeous but it has no taste but you don't want to throw it out because it looks so nice still...

The more I think about it the more I wish I should have done it sooner. I almost feel like she has "won" by being the first to snob me off, though I shouldn't think of our friendship so competitively should I? Is it my pride perhaps?

It is sad in a way too that after so many years of friendship ( genuine or not is another matter) that it has come to this. I was recently asked " Why does she hate you so much?". I didn't think she did hate me as HATE is such a strong word that one needs to really think about what it truly means before just tossing it into casual conversation.

I think what makes me so angry now is that she is involving other people into this whole thing which should only be between me and her. But then on the other hand should it be her I should be mad at or those that have believed her words and who have left their loyalty to me as a friend behind for her lies?

It does explain a lot of weird behaviour I have noticed from certain people, but when I heard that she had been telling MY friends about it and trying to get people to "side" with her it makes my blood boil.

It's one thing to be angry at me or whatever but DONT TRY AND TURN MY FRIENDS AGAINST ME - especially when you are doing so by telling complete fabrications.

And to those people who say " I want to be mutual and not get involved" and then go and rant about me and say that " X" is right and "Grace doesn't know what she is talking about X would never do that" don't fucken pretend that you are genuine and trying to stay out of it when you have gone and practically declared whose side you are on by slagging me out to everyone. I don't even know how I feel about your betrayal at this point.

It seems that I am not having much luck at the moment with friends....just recently another incident occured in our "friendship group" that upset us all.

I guess as we get older we become to appreciate who our true friends are and that it is quality not quantity that matters.